Words said (or shouted) in anger can hurt your arteries as well as your feelings, say University of Utah researchers targeting anger issues in couples relationships.
Researchers videotaped 150 married couples in 6-minute conversations about money, in-laws and other stressful topics. They followed this with CT scans that checked arteries for heart attack risk factors.
They found that:
o Women who heard or made hostile comments were 30% more likely than other women to have hardened arteries, and
o Men who heard or said controlling comments, the same.
Avoiding arguments is difficult, even impossible. So it’s doubly important to quickly neutralise any anger involved. Conventional anger management techniques can be effective but require time and diligence.
However, if you learn and use the simple techniques of EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques), you can quickly resolve stress, anxieties, and anger. EFT quickly combines fingertapping on key acupuncture points with focussed thought…and stress tends to melt away.
In addition to improving hearts and relationships, EFT has been a consistently effective healing tool for countless physical, mental and emotional ailments.
Millions of people around the world are helping themselves daily (in various languages) with fears, phobias, emotional traumas, physical ailments, sports performance, family relationships, and more, through EFT tapping.
No need to suffer forever.
EFT Tapping and relationship breakup anger
As an EFT Coach based in Adelaide (and available by phone or Skype anywhere), I see many women who discover EFT after their relationships end.
In these cases, tapping away wounded feelings and left-over hostility can usher in a new outlook, often quickly.
I recall a woman who walked into my consulting room, then looked as though she was about to bolt. Arms folded, tight-lipped, she said, ‘I’m afraid I’m wasting your time. I can’t see how this could possibly work for my problem.’ (Tapping on yourself does sound ridiculous!)
The problem, she said, was that she had been angry with her husband for nine solid months. ‘We’ve been married for twenty-five years, and now he’s been unfaithful .I found out nine months ago. I can’t get over it.’
Naturally she was sceptical. How could tapping on herself change anything — because her anger issues seemed justified?
Persuaded to at least try, she stayed and tapped to collapse her angry feelings, learning the EFT technique as she did so. Finally she did admit feeling calmer for the first time in months. And she could continue basic tapping now by herself.
Her new emotional space enabled her to start thinking rationally about her future, instead of continuing to be stuck in helpless rage – a known heart risk.
Add EFT tapping to your marriage arguments
Could that woman’s marriage have been saved? We don’t know. But lots of couples are now adding tapping to their marriage skills, so they can:
- lower their stress levels quickly if a problem comes up
• communicate so much better with each other
• and THAT means — they’ll deal with the problem faster, more easily than when they are stressed to the eyeballs
• and THAT will probably spin off into a better sex life together – because couples who don’t communicate well out of bed seldom communicate really well, long-term, in bed
Wishing alone doesn’t work
If you are just wishing and hoping that you’ll control strong unhappy emotions in your marriage, so that you won’t cause unnecessary upsets, you probably won’t be able to do this. Emotions are too volatile. You can’t help screaming or silently simmering.
But when you find you can tap away the intensity of anger, or resentment, sadness, despair etc. easily – then you start to have some of the control over your emotions that you want.
If both people are willing to do this, at least sometimes, you’ll find you can work out many problems together, and reach the closeness you so much value.
Can EFT tapping save your marriage — and your life?
U.S. physician Dr. Eric Robins – who uses EFT tapping with his patients – says, ‘Positive thinking is nice, but the best mind-body therapies actually create shifts in how you feel in your body.
‘The Utah study evidenced how physical changes occur in the heart after arguments. With EFT, you can create physical shifts toward health by clearing the emotions out at a body level. This is called a physiological shift.
‘The result can mean not only saving your marriage but saving your life’.
Anger issues CAN be neutralised, and faster than you might think.