With EFT tapping
Have you lost someone close? Grieving is a necessary phase, and of course it hurts. But many people can’t move past grief and loss, to remember the person they loved with only joy and thankfulness.
Grief doesn’t happen only for a person (or pet) who has died. People may be grieving over divorce, over big financial loss, over the loss of a cherished way of life, over the loss of land they grew up with — or over specific traumas such as illness trauma, including loss of a body part, fertility, motherhood, health — or over a deathbed trauma.
Now there is a quick, easy way to dissolve grief that gets stuck.
Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) is a remarkable self-help technique, based on research. It relieves stress, pain and suffering, often faster than you might think possible.
‘Grieving proves my love’?
Some people have the idea that the strength and length of their grief and loss process demonstrate the extent of their love for the dead person, be that a baby, child, relative, friend, or favourite dog. But actually, all that ongoing grief does is to continually bring down the griever, often into depression, and even into physical illness. Nobody benefits.
How can EFT tapping help with grief?
Grief has different faces, including anger and guilt as well as sadness. A mourner might feel angry that the person left, or died; perhaps there is guilt for actions done or not done.
EFT targets each emotion separately, and quickly reduces the intensity of each. If an EFT beginner cannot get significant results, that’s a time to get help from an experienced EFT practitioner.
This simple method of tapping on meridian endpoints on the skin soothes the amygdala portion of the brain, which is activated by stress (according to research at Harvard Medical School). At the same time, the tapping soothes the body’s electromagnetic meridian energy system, also disrupted by stress.
This stress reduction effect is permanent, when carried out thoroughly.
As an EFT coach I often deal with people who are grieving for people they have lost, either recently or years ago.
As the burden of stuck emotions clears away in a one-hour session, the client begins spontaneously to focus on happier memories of the lost person, truly honoring the value of the relationship.
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Also, EFT’s many techniques can quickly and gently free up limiting mindsets that frequently take hold around bereavement, such as ‘I could have saved him/her’, ‘I let people down’, and even ‘I’ll never love again’.
Grief and loss don’t need to be an insurmountable burden, although they may feel like that. If you have not tried EFT, you may not believe this. Have you had success with EFT tapping?