Grief can be lifted, faster than you think
‘Time heals all,’ they say. Unfortunately, it doesn’t. We just get resigned to our hurts, perhaps years later. But there is now a simple, better way to peace! It’s an acupressure technique called EFT tapping. It’s the answer to how to get through a family breakup.
‘Tapping to feel better? On myself? That sounds ridiculous, ’ you may think.
Maybe, but can 10 million people be wrong? That’s the latest estimate of how many people around the world have used Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) tapping to release stress, since the self-help technique was developed in the mid-1990s. No corporate advertising has achieved this spread, only word of mouth by individuals.
EFT is a fast solution to emotional upset. You can learn it for yourself, and you can also have assistance from an EFT practitioner, in person or by phone or Skype.
Dealing with grief is so difficult for many people, because grief has more aspects than just sadness. It can involve blame and anger, regret, desperation, overwhelm, and more — all emotions that stress body and mind.
Daughter leaving home
Brendan was a father feeling shocked, hurt and angry at the way his teenage daughter had decided to leave home. This happened just when Brendan had started to learn how to reduce suffering and stress by EFT tapping. Previously he had never thought about how to get through family breakups, he’d had no reason to.
In a dramatic scene where his daughter was distraught, he instinctively leaned forward and said to her, ‘I can help by tapping on you.’ She didn’t resist. He tapped a round of EFT on her face and body, and she calmed down a little. He continued to tap rounds, and in a few minutes she was relaxed. She had let go of her intense upset – forever. She had moved past it.
Brendan’s own deep anger took longer, but it faded as he tapped on himself now and then over a few days. When he attended one of my beginners’ EFT tapping workshops,he was no longer angry over the event, but he still felt profoundly hurt.
After tapping for a few more minutes on this problem during the workshop, he started to feel genuine acceptance of his daughter’s choice, and of this new phase in their lives. His relief spread through his body.
He knew now that they had a good chance of staying close in the coming years.
Of course, as EFT Master Patricia Carrington points out, because of the overwhelm aspect of relationship separations, even people who often banish life’s difficulties by EFT tapping can feel they don’t have time to stop and tap, even for a few minutes, even to reach peace.
But, as Brendan is experiencing, choosing to do so can save you years of unnecessary suffering . His example shows how you could get through family breakups. And more good news is — it’s never too late to let go of emotional pain, especially in this painless way.